I messaged you before but my head was in a mess. I told you about how I had an abortion last year and now I can't stop thinking about having a baby it's mostly all I think about. I would love to have a baby but I need some advice on my choices. I am 16 and a half if that helps. My brothers girlfriend had a baby last week and they all live with me. it's difficult to deal with it sometimes. With nobody knowing as well. My abortion was not wanted it was almost forced upon me but it's regretted. x

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themidwifeisin:

It really hurts my heart to hear that you felt like your abortion was forced on you.  I hope that you can find the peace and healing that you need.  I don’t know if you’ve seen any of my other posts on this topic, but please think about calling any of these after-abortion support lines:

You say you’d like info on your choices, but I think the first thing to think about is figuring out what your life will look like if you have a baby now.  Some practical logistics to work out:

  • If you get pregnant in the next few months, when would you end up giving birth?  What will you do about school at that point?
  • Who will help you pay for healthcare for you and your baby?  Who will help you pay for baby supplies?
  • If you go to school or work, who will take care of your baby while you do that?  If you don’t work, who will support you and your baby?
  • Where will you live?  Is there enough space for a family there?
  • What is your career goal?  How will you achieve that goal with a baby?  How would you achieve that goal differently if you did not have a baby?
  • Do you have a partner?  Will that partner stay with you if you decide to have a baby?   Would you want to have a baby with that partner if they decide not to stay with you?
  • How do you want to raise your children?  Do you want them to live in a specific type of household with specific rules, education, resources, etc?  Could you provide that for them now?
  • What are the major ways that you would need to change your behavior if you decide to become a parent?

None of these is a reason to not have a baby, I just want you to be thinking ahead so that you can be the best parent you can be.  The answer to those questions might be “I don’t know right now.”  You might also find good answers by looking into the resources in your local area.  What types of teen pregnancy and parenting organizations are there?  Ask your guidance counselor at school, ask your healthcare provider.  Did your brother and his girlfriend have any help?  Where are they living, and would they be willing to share hand-me-downs with you?  Really explore all your options before you make the decision.

Good luck with this major decision!  Let us know what you decide.

I feel so useless sitting here. What can I do to help Ferguson??

Anonymous

natnovna:

there’s a bail and legal fund that’s been set up for those who’ve been arrested 

this person is trying to organize a food drive for school kids in ferguson

national moment of silence 2014 (for victims of police brutality) 

share the following: 

videos of what has happened

links to articles

how to make a tear gas mask

livestream link to the peaceful protests

fangirlatlarge:

simulatedcity:

evnw:

tofutits:

This is so FUCKING SCARY

what the fuck is going on

THIS IS THE ONLY TIME I WILL EVER SAY THIS. NO MATTER WHAT KIND OF BLOG YOU ARE RUNNING REBLOG THIS. THIS CRAP NEEDS TO BE KNOWN. NEEDS TO BE SEEN. AND NEEDS TO BE SPREAD.THIS IS HAPPENING IN MY STATE AND IT IS FUCKING TERRIFYING. LET IT BE KNOWN. DON’T STOP SPREADING THE NEWS. MAKE EVERYONE SEE THE SHIT THAT IS GOING DOWN. Please. No body else seems to be protecting them anymore. Do what you can.

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foodbeersexwhatever:

Fuck.

spinningrims:

i’m seeing a lot of people reblogging suicide hotlines and this is just a reminder that this is a suicide help line that works like a text-based instant messenger for people who may need to talk to someone but have trouble/are uncomfortable making phone calls

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slayboybunny:

"sir what you did is literally 100 percent illegal"
"ok but get this: im a rich white person" 
"oh sorry about that sir" 

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misandry-mermaid:

ladiedaisy:

I CAN’T BELIEVE I ACTUALLY HAD TO TELL PEOPLE THIS

Regarding his violent attack on his ex-girlfriend, porn actress and nude model Christy Mack.

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misandry-mermaid:

donut-give-a-fuck-about-abs:

This makes me extremely fucking angry.
"At about 2 a.m. Friday morning, Jon Koppenhaver arrived announced to my home in Las Vegas, NV. After he broke up with me in May, he moved out of my house and back to San Diego. When he arrived, he found myself and one other fully clothed and unarmed [man] in the house. Without a single word spoken, he began beating my friend; once he was finished, he sent my friend away and turned his attention to me. He made me undress and shower in front of him then dragged me out and beat my face. I have no recollection of how many times i was hit. I just know the injuries that resulted from my beating. My injuries include 18 broken bones around my eyes, my nose is broken in 2 places. I am missing teeth and several more are broken. I am unable to chew, or see out of my left eye. My speech is slurred from my swelling and lack of teeth. I have a fractured rib and severely ruptured liver from a kick to my side. My leg is so badly injured, I have not been able to walk on my own. I also attained several lesions from a knife he got from my kitchen. He pushed the knife into me in some areas including my hand, ear and head. He also sawed much of my hair off with his dull knife.
After some time, the knife broke off of the handle and continued to threaten me with the blade. I believed I was going to die. He has beaten me many times before, but never this badly. He took my phone and cancelled all of my plans for the following week to make sure no one would worry about my whereabouts. He told me he was going to rape me, but was disappointed in himself when he couldn’t get hard. After another hit or two, he left me on the floor bleeding and shaking, holding my side from the pain of my rib. He left the room and went to the kitchen where I could hear him ruffling through my drawers. Assuming he was finding a sharper, more stable knife to end my life, I ran out the back door, shutting it behind me so the dogs did not run inside to tip him off. I hopped the fence to the gold course behind my house and ran into a neighboring house. naked and afraid he would catch me, I kept running through the neighborhood running through the doors. Finally, one answered and I was brought to the hospital and treated for my injuries.
I would like to thank everyone for their support through this rough time. I am healing fast and well, and I appreciate a lot of the prayers and visits I have received over the past few days. After many months of fear and pressure to keep this man happy, although I fear for my life, I feel that I can no longer put myself in this situation. The cheating by him nearly everyday, and almost weekly abuse, is now more than I can stand. There is a $10k reward for the capture of Jonathan Koppenhaver at this time. Please report any information to your local police.
Thank you.
- Christy Mack

The victim-blaming backlash against Christy Mack has been horrific.  She’s being blamed for her horrific assault because she’s a sex worker, because she dated a professional fighter, because she “cheated” (even though she and Koppenhaver were no longer dating) by people on Twitter and other websites.  According to many internet misogynists, the fact that she is a sex worker is why she deserved this abuse, why she doesn’t deserve justice, and why Koppenhaver’s actions are justified.  This is misogyny.  This is why we need feminism.  Koppenhaver is on the run from law enforcement (like any smart, innocent person would be??) and there is a reward for whoever turns him in.  You can donate to Christy Mack’s medical expense fund here.


Sex workers sign up for safe consensual sex or sexual activity. Just because Christy Mack fucks for a living, doesn’t mean she signed up to get the life nearly beaten out of her by some scum bag. No one deserves to be treated like this.

misandry-mermaid:

donut-give-a-fuck-about-abs:

This makes me extremely fucking angry.

"At about 2 a.m. Friday morning, Jon Koppenhaver arrived announced to my home in Las Vegas, NV. After he broke up with me in May, he moved out of my house and back to San Diego. When he arrived, he found myself and one other fully clothed and unarmed [man] in the house. Without a single word spoken, he began beating my friend; once he was finished, he sent my friend away and turned his attention to me. He made me undress and shower in front of him then dragged me out and beat my face. I have no recollection of how many times i was hit. I just know the injuries that resulted from my beating. My injuries include 18 broken bones around my eyes, my nose is broken in 2 places. I am missing teeth and several more are broken. I am unable to chew, or see out of my left eye. My speech is slurred from my swelling and lack of teeth. I have a fractured rib and severely ruptured liver from a kick to my side. My leg is so badly injured, I have not been able to walk on my own. I also attained several lesions from a knife he got from my kitchen. He pushed the knife into me in some areas including my hand, ear and head. He also sawed much of my hair off with his dull knife.

After some time, the knife broke off of the handle and continued to threaten me with the blade. I believed I was going to die. He has beaten me many times before, but never this badly. He took my phone and cancelled all of my plans for the following week to make sure no one would worry about my whereabouts. He told me he was going to rape me, but was disappointed in himself when he couldn’t get hard. After another hit or two, he left me on the floor bleeding and shaking, holding my side from the pain of my rib. He left the room and went to the kitchen where I could hear him ruffling through my drawers. Assuming he was finding a sharper, more stable knife to end my life, I ran out the back door, shutting it behind me so the dogs did not run inside to tip him off. I hopped the fence to the gold course behind my house and ran into a neighboring house. naked and afraid he would catch me, I kept running through the neighborhood running through the doors. Finally, one answered and I was brought to the hospital and treated for my injuries.

I would like to thank everyone for their support through this rough time. I am healing fast and well, and I appreciate a lot of the prayers and visits I have received over the past few days. After many months of fear and pressure to keep this man happy, although I fear for my life, I feel that I can no longer put myself in this situation. The cheating by him nearly everyday, and almost weekly abuse, is now more than I can stand. There is a $10k reward for the capture of Jonathan Koppenhaver at this time. Please report any information to your local police.

Thank you.

- Christy Mack

The victim-blaming backlash against Christy Mack has been horrific.  She’s being blamed for her horrific assault because she’s a sex worker, because she dated a professional fighter, because she “cheated” (even though she and Koppenhaver were no longer dating) by people on Twitter and other websites.  According to many internet misogynists, the fact that she is a sex worker is why she deserved this abuse, why she doesn’t deserve justice, and why Koppenhaver’s actions are justified.  This is misogyny.  This is why we need feminism.  Koppenhaver is on the run from law enforcement (like any smart, innocent person would be??) and there is a reward for whoever turns him in.  You can donate to Christy Mack’s medical expense fund here.

Sex workers sign up for safe consensual sex or sexual activity. Just because Christy Mack fucks for a living, doesn’t mean she signed up to get the life nearly beaten out of her by some scum bag.
No one deserves to be treated like this.

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Who gives a shit about what men find attractive.

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You know that place between sleep and awake, that place where you still remember dreaming? That’s where I’ll always love you. That’s where I’ll be waiting.
Hook, 1991 (via youngfolksociety)

UUUGGHHHH

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thephotogfeminist:

burningbells:

imageIf you need Plan B, here’s a printable $10 off coupon

It doesn’t expire either! It’s a continual offer

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The Lion's Roar

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captaiinmarvel:

when girls press their whole body against you when they hug, it means they like you a lot. also, they’re measuring your body to determine how long it will take them to eat your flesh, a technique shared by boa constrictors

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